The loss of our heroes
It seems that the hardest problem for people to face when they leave the UPC is the one of figuring out what they believe and who they can trust. I know it’s an issue that I faced, and from the forums that I have participated in and the discussions that I have been a part of I know that others have faced it well.
Today I was thinking about this and it struck me that if a person was raised in the UPC (as I was) then their greatest heroes are generally people in the UPC. My heroes were certain preachers who I saw as being full of wisdom and compassion, godliness and grace, mercy and anointing. These were the men that I aspired to be like more than anything else in the world. I wanted to have the tenacity that they had to "hold on to Truth." I wanted to have the anointing that they did and affect people in the same ways that they affected people.
But when I left the UPC I found out that some of my heroes are actually enemies of the gospel. This does not make them bad men–far from it! They are not knowingly enemies of the gospel; they are doing what they are convinced is right. But yet I see that every time they "win a soul" to the UPC they are doing just that–winning a soul to the UPC (which is a far cry from winning a soul to the gospel).
Some might think I’m being melodramatic, but I do not think that it’s possible to overestimate the importance of heroes in our lives. We all have them, and we all need them. But where do we go when our heroes are stripped away?
I think that the best place we can go is to Jesus. We can let Him become our hero. And how do we do this? By focusing on His life, His character, and His ministry. After all, isn’t our goal to be "just like Jesus"?
I think that the best thing a person can do when leaving the UPC is to pick up a Bible (one that’s not the KJV) and read through one or two of the gospels. Then read through some of the epistles (especially James, 1st and 2nd Peter, and Galatians) with the goal of applying it, not just understanding it.
When we leave the UPC we seek so much to understand. We want to understand doctrine and to find out exactly what we believe. But in the last year I have found out that if a person seeks to just know Christ then understanding will come. This isn’t to say that a person should throw head knowledge out the window of course! There’s nothing wrong with seeking to understand the Bible. But let your main focus be Christ. After all, isn’t it He who shed His blood to redeem us and who rose again so that we might be free?
June 29th, 2008 at 8:16 pm
That was just excellent. I remember the whole time I attended the UPC services, I would ask the Lord, can’t I just have you?
Once I learned to hear Him again, I realized He had been saying YES a long time.
My first revelation came when I picked up the Bible and read the Gospels. Reading a book in one setting changes your whole perspective.
I was amazed that Jesus was nothing like I though He was. He was wise, loving, and a teacher and altogether God. Even when He knew the disciples must have been doing something wrong when they asked how often they should forgive someone, he gave truth but didn’t lecture on and on about what they may have been doing wrong.
I think He only rebuked the religious leaders and Peter.
And that would start a whole new subject….
Bless you, and keep writing. There’s real life in that Book. Those that Seek HIM still Find HIM.
July 16th, 2008 at 4:02 am
My journey in leaving the UPC I found out that I had to change my entire preception of faith, and the role of the minister in my life.
Indeed stressful, but nessesary. Indeed may ministers either knowingly or by ignorance can be enemies of the gospel and dedication to the organization is not nessesarly dedication to the Lord.
Understanding now the healthy and biblical role of the minister I was able to proceed to finding a healthy church to worship at. Not to say that there are not healthy UPC churches to worship at, but my particular situation was not healthy.
In a healthy situation a minister is a fellow brother in the Lord who provides teaching from the Lord and his scripture. His authority comes from the fact that the grace of God is visably demonstrated in his life.
In a healthy church the minister does not have authority because of his position. He has authority because he has the goods. The minister is also a sinner saved by grace and is accountable to the other members. If I see a minister in sin, I am supposed to go to him privately and confront him, and then with witnesses if I am unsuccessful. Believe it or not, if we do not hold a minister accountable – we are doing him a disservice, and witholding from him an importiant tool withing brotherly fellowship.
In a unhealthy church/minister situation where the minister is held up unbiblically the minister is unable to demonstrate transparency, and he is unable to get his needs meet. Without this transparency, it provides Satan the opportunity to wreck havoc in the ministers life because he is forced to live a double life. One face for the church, another privately.
A minister should never be in a position of a financual counselor (should I buy this house…car).